Behavior Change: Why Is It So Hard?
Hi everyone, I’m Dr. Connie. I hope you are all having a good week so far. I’ve been reflecting on the importance of behavior change and willingness when creating health.
In fact, without willingness, behavior change will never happen.
But what is even more interesting to me is that despite the need to change, often, we find ourselves in a struggle to do the very thing that we all “know” will change the outcome of our situation.
For example, I knew for a long time that altering my behavior to change my diet would change the course of my Lupus.
However, my emotions hijacked this logic, keeping me in a state of helplessness.
I was perpetuating the state of my Lupus flare by not acting, but I just couldn’t explain why I chose not to act sooner.
Now I understand that there’s a scientific reason for this lack of behavior change. I chose to talk about this topic today because I realize that many of my patients struggle with this.
While some patients are willing to do anything to get better, there are others that struggle to make this change. I see that they want to, but they have a hard time doing it.
It’s important to understand that emotions influence our body systems at the cellular level in ways that are either renewing or depleting.
Our attitudes toward our condition or illness will largely dictate how our condition affects us.
It all starts with stress. The idea of stress is elusive at times because we are always experiencing it daily: sitting in traffic, time constraints, illness, financial struggles, and family issues…..life is stressful.
But did you know that the perception of stress is what’s more important? That perception is created by YOU.
Our Perception Influences Our Reality
Our emotions are central to the experience of stress. Feelings of anxiety, irritation, frustration, and helplessness are the “experiences” that we “perceive” to be true at that moment.
Those perceptions and thoughts carry a charge that tend to loop in our conscious awareness, triggering a stress response.
And most toxic effects on our health are the physiological effects of our negative emotions.
What I mean to say is that our habitual emotional patterns, especially negative ones, will define who we are, so much so that we progressively resist changing this very paradigm.
For some of you, it’ll be an “aha” moment, but for many of you, you’ll have a confused look. And both are ok.
I feel this is the most important information that I can share with you to help you have a different perspective. One that can serve you better. One that can help you heal.
So much science is involved in this concept, but I won’t bore you with the details.
I wanted to share the basics with you so that you know that your behavior is not necessarily your fault, and once you are aware of this you can take back your control.
The most important thing to remember is that even though we are sick and may be going through a health crisis, like a Lupus flare, we will naturally resist the behavior change that will heal us.
And Einstein said it best. “Insanity is doing something over and over again, expecting different results.”
Treating patients for over 19 years, I’ve learned that most of us resist changing the very thing that will make a positive impact on our lives.
I’m here to guide you out of that crazy loop. The first step is becoming aware of this.
My gift today is a healing, guided meditation to reframe your perspective and to help you create a renewing mind. Check out today’s blog video that contains the link to the meditation.
Until next time, enjoy!
About the Author
Dr. Connie has suffered from Lupus for the last 16 years. As a result, she discovered that a holistic minded approach to health was most beneficial for herself in battling Lupus and for her patients, who battle everything from Autoimmune Disease to Weight Loss. Dr. Connie holds a Doctorate in Physical Therapy and a Masters in Public Health (Nutrition) from the renowned Loma Linda University School of Allied Health Professions. She is also a Registered and Licensed Dietitian in the State of Georgia. Additionally, Dr. Connie is a Functional Medicine Practitioner (Certification Pending 2017), a Registered RYT-200 Yoga Teacher & School (Yoga Alliance) and Certified Pilates Teacher (Pilates Method Alliance).